Opinion: ‘I try very hard not to judge others and I ask others not to judge me’

Clark County Today Editor Ken Vance reflects on the loss of legendary college basketball coach Bob Knight.
Legendary college basketball coach Bob Knight died this week at the age of 83. Photo courtesy Wikipedia

Clark County Today Editor Ken Vance reflects on the loss of legendary college basketball coach Bob Knight

Ken Vance, editor
Clark County Today

My friends and family will tell you, one of my most-often-spoken statements is this: “I try very hard not to judge others and I ask others not to judge me.’’ Unfortunately, I feel like the number of us who attempt to live by that creed is a group growing smaller and smaller by the day.

Ken Vance
Editor Ken Vance

I’m thinking of this because of this week’s death of legendary college basketball coach Bobby Knight, who died at the age of 83 surrounded by family and friends in Indiana. During his collegiate coaching career, Knight won 902 games, which was the most ever at the time of his retirement in 2008. He won three national championships during his tenure at Indiana University and also won a title as a player at Ohio State University. His 1976 Indiana team didn’t lose a game. His 1975 Indiana team only lost one game and likely would have also gone undefeated if it wasn’t for a broken left arm to standout forward Scott May.

Many columns or stories could be written about Knight’s accomplishments as a basketball coach. He created the motion offense, a complicated system built on seven principles that required players to read the actions of the defense to determine their own actions on cutting and attacking off screens and motion. I attempted to implement Knight’s motion offense at the high school level and was very unsuccessful. It was so simple and yet so complicated at the same time. As many columns or stories can be written about the legion of former players and coaches who Knight influenced in his storied career. He leaves behind a great number of folks who would take a bullet for the guy, or at least donate a major organ.

A seemingly equal amount of columns or stories could be written about Knight’s many flaws and imperfections. He had a horrible temper. He often bullied and mistreated those around him, including those he loved and cared deeply for. There is a grainy video showing Knight putting his hands on Indiana player Neil Reed during a 1997 practice. At Indiana University, he also allegedly grabbed the arm of a student he felt was being disrespectful to him. He berated sportswriters and game officials, including one famous incident when he hurled a chair across the court during a break in a game.

A friend of mine once attended a coach’s clinic in Portland at which Knight spoke. During Knight’s time on stage, he repeatedly patronized two female coaches seated near the front. During a break, the women went to event organizers and complained about how they were treated by Knight. When Knight noticed this, he yelled at the organizers to give the women their money back and tell them to get the hell out of here. Another friend of mine once rode in an elevator with Knight at the NCAA Final Four. My friend asked Knight who he thought would win the championship, to which Knight said he had no opinion. My friend then asked incredulously how Knight could not have an opinion, and the burly 6-foot-5 Knight turned, looked my smaller friend in the eye and said sternly, “that’s what I said.’’

One of my favorite books was A Season on the Brink, written by John Feinstein, who followed Knight and the Indiana Hoosiers during the 1985-86 season. Knight granted Feinstein unprecedented access to the Indiana basketball program as well as the coach’s personal life. After the book came out, Knight was furious with Feinstein, claiming among other things that the coach’s use of profanity was fabricated by the author. Again, Knight’s crude behavior and vulgar language didn’t prevent me from appreciating his brilliance.

Enough about what this column isn’t about and more about what it is about. How should we feel after the death of someone like Knight – equal parts good and equal parts bad? I would hope we would feel the same as when they were alive. On Thursday’s edition of ESPN’s Pardon the Interruption, co-host Tony Kornheiser said of Knight, “I won’t make him a villain but I can not simply make him a hero.’’

While Knight was in an elite class as a basketball coach, he was far from alone as a flawed human being. If truth be told, aren’t we all flawed and imperfect? Granted, if I were Neil Reed, or Neil Reed’s father, I might have a more difficult time not judging Knight’s flaws or imperfections. I want to believe I could still forgive, even if it was harder to do so.

Maybe I’m just getting old. Maybe I have a selective memory. Maybe it’s what they call recency bias. But, it sure seems to me that we’re less and less willing to accept the flaws and imperfections of others these days while also being less and less willing to celebrate the endearing qualities of those same individuals.

Now at the age of 60 years, I have suffered many losses of those close to me. Both my parents are gone, not to mention all of my grandparents. I have just one aunt (of many aunts and uncles) who is still alive. I’ve reached the point in life where that list is only going to grow. And, in addition to that, my own mortality stares me in my face. I’m not losing any sleep over how I will be remembered. I’m confident those who know me well will acknowledge both my flaws and my endearing qualities, however many or few.

What’s more important to me is how we treat others while we are still alive. I’m not suggesting anyone should get a free pass. We are each to be held accountable for our actions. But, just as we should seek not to be judged, we should also seek not to judge others. Rest in peace Robert Montgomery Knight.


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2 Comments

  1. Anna Miller

    Well written Kenny, as always. Very balanced view of the coach. We have a slightly different view of the meaning of judgement. Here is the actual definition of judgement. judgment.
    noun

    1. The act or process of judging; the formation of an opinion after consideration or deliberation. An opinion or estimate formed after consideration or deliberation, especially a formal or authoritative decision.
    2. “Awaited the judgment of the umpire.”
    3. The mental ability to perceive and distinguish relationships, discernment.
    4. “Fatigue may affect a pilot’s judgment of distances.”

    Most notable, “after consideration of deliberation” “discernment”.

    Unfortunately, the world has co-opted the word judge or judgement to allow for all types of bad behavior. And, if we use discernment and after careful deliberation it is our duty to judge the behavior as wrong and to be able to face the criticism for speaking out about it. Of course, the careful deliberation’s part is critical, lest we have a plank in our own eye.

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